You aren’t a “family man.” Your a man with a family. This distinction matters. And, it matters to the survival of our species.
You were taught to think of family life as the promised land – a blissful state wherein, once won, you collapse into the arms of an all-loving, all-sustaining woman, carried along in the euphoric carefree nirvana of procreation and whelp-tending . . .
That once you entered the paradise of marriage and family life, the need for seeking and striving and straining and providing will, at last, be behind you . . .
That you can slip gratefully into the rest and reprieve of being the “family man.”
That’s the mythical dream we’ve be sold for the last 50 years . . . interwoven within our cultures, media and folktales. But, as you know, it’s a lie. It’s a deceptive lie upon which stories and movies have been founded.
Deep down, you and I know it. What’s the point in trying if you know the game is rigged? For the satisfaction of knowing you are contributing to the greater good? That’s just the kind of stupid thing an intellectual Ivy League indoctrinated mind would regurgitate.
Family life demands much much MORE piss and vinegar, not less. Anyone who calls marriage the simple domestication of a man never actually successfully tried it.
In fact, it must always be the wildest of men who marry.
When you marry, you don’t “settle down.” You settle in for the long haul. The long haul is where you sweat and bleed and hammer to create, and attack and guard and parry and defend from the ever encroaching evil at that scale of creation . . . for the rest of your life. Being a man with a family is dangerous. It takes courage, and courage implies a risk. It implies a potential for failure and the presence of danger. Courage is measured against danger. The greater the danger, the greater the courage. And, courage is the only virtue that you cannot fake.
Family life isn’t some trophy to be won; some suspended state; some hall-pass that lets you opt out of the agonies and ecstasies of the masculine life.
Family life is a fitting and beautiful burden; a mantle; a forged function of the highest order that draws more vision, power, brilliance and greatness than any unattached life could ever offer.
Yet, if you get that fundamental mindset wrong, then married life will feel like a constant catastrophe, getting burned at the forge of creation with the supposed fruits of family life perpetually denied you.
The universalism of today’s society desires the “family man.” The universalism that can only condemn those who defend, and can only separate those who attempt to differentiate, is the product and unintended consequence of a global trade. The one true god of the universalist is Mammon, and he embraces anyone with a pocket full of cash who doesn’t scare away other infecund customers. This is why we are told to accept the unacceptable, to condemn religions that condemn, to share cultures with everyone as if they belong to no one, to deny all racial affinity, to pretend that men and women are interchangeable. Because exclusion and a real man is bad for business.
Again, you aren’t a “family man.” You aren’t some separate, cloistered categorical shell of a man. That’s what every educational institution, every government and every feminizing organization within the world wants you to think.
You are a MAN with a family – a man subject to all the gauntlets and crucibles and devastations of our sex.
So, quit the myth of the well-adjusted, happily-sequestered family man. Drop every pretense of arrival you were sold; lest you rob your family and yourself of your full power, your abounding glory, let loose your native self.
You are just getting started.
You and I, we are, each of us, alone. Even with a family, this is the first law of masculinity. And it is the most important law. Your value is equal to the value which you bring to your family and to your tribe. We are not equal. You are not special. Your masculine respect is earned, not given.
This is why men make fun of the “the family man.” Your brothers will not love you unconditionally for who you are, just being a man or yourself. They will criticize you. They will push you to your limits. They expect you to bring out your best, put on your “A” game. And, then, they only give you their respect when you’ve earned it, family or no.
This isn’t shocking at all. It’s common knowledge to any man because deep in your genetics, it is hardwired into you, ready for use.
Your childhood is over. The boy is dead. Wake up, step up. It’s time to be a man with a family for the rest of your life.
In past posts, we’ve discussed how to effectively and efficiently lose weight and open the gates of the fat cells. We’ve talked about the keys to the back doors of the fat cells that must be opened to create effective lipolysis (releasing of fat from the fat cells) and weight reduction.
I want to focus, today, on another key found in the brain. The brain neuropeptides play a huge role in metabolic balance of the body and have direct relationships to anxiety, stress and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). In the last few years, research into the hormones of the brain (neuropeptides) and body demonstrates that the “autonomic nervous system” plays a very significant roll in losing weight.
The autonomic nervous system is the part of the nervous system responsible for “fight or flight responses.” If a bear rises up in front of you while you are strolling in the woods, and begins to chase you, the autonomic nervous system kicks in to speed up the heart rate, shunt blood to the muscles and turn down the processing of food in the gut while you run from or fight the bear. This autonomic nervous system is also the system that links emotions (like happiness, sadness, stress, anger, depression) between the conscious and subconscious mind and creates the attachments of these emotions to specific memories.
The Divided Mind and Disease
A disconnect or poor communication between our conscious mind and subconscious mind wreaks havoc in the balance between memory, emotion, cognitive function, endocrine glands and immune system. One example of this is the onset of panic attacks for no reason. Another example is chronic fatigue and many symptoms found in autoimmune diseases. This same autonomic nervous system, when malfunctioning, plays a significant roll in our ability to lose weight. The subconscious mind triggers the autonomic nervous system without the conscious mind’s involvement.
Thanks to the work of John E Sarno, MD, and Candace B. Pert, PhD, the link between our subconscious mind and the autonomic nervous system is much more clear. This opens the door to our understanding how the subconscious mind can have a profound effect on obesity.
This field of research requires one to understand a concept about the psyche initially outlined by Dr. Sigmund Freud and his colleague Dr. Josef Breuer (the Father of Psychoanalysis) in the 1880’s. Misconceptions regarding the basic drives of the human psyche aside, they identified through their clinical evaluations that the human psyche is made up of three parts, the subconscious (the id), conscious (the ego), and the super-conscious (the superego). They identified an essential concept that the subconscious is a more primitive and childish component of the mind functioning much more instinctually, and that the ego and super-ego house the intelligent, ethical, and moral consciousness. They also identified that a split or division can arise between these two partitions causing physiological conflict to arise (i.e. – onset of a panic attack for no reason).
Autonomic Nervous System is made up of two parts: Sympathetic and Parasympathetic divisions. These divisions act like a gas pedal or brake for various organs and functions.
It is important to understand, as Freud pointed out, that you cannot divide the mind into neat compartments suggested by these three divisions. The mind acts as a single unit. However, understanding the “id” and it’s instinctual functions being tied to the autonomic nervous system is central to understanding how subconscious can derail weight loss.
Freud and Breuer identified in their Studies on Hysteriathat a simple subconscious idea or instinct could be strong enough to exert powerful physical responses without sufficient intensity to become conscious thought recognized by the individual. This means that a physiologic motor response in the body could be stimulated without being conscious of the reason for the stimulus. They, along with Jean-Martin Caharcot, Alfred Alder, Franz Alexander and Allan Walters, witnessed this multiple times clinically. They came to the conclusions that pain and other nervous functions could originate and could actually be created by the mind.
The Mind has the Power to Create Disease
Dr. Pert’s research over the last 40 years has been able to clearly identify a communication system between the brain, the endocrine system and the immune system. Dr. Pert’s research identified that memory and/or subconscious idea is directly tied to emotion through the brain hormones called neuropeptides that, when triggered, reproduce stored memory, emotion physical autonomic responses (like changes in heart rate, dry mouth, dilation or constriction of the pupils, sweating of the palms or trunk, chest pressure, etc) and even auto-immunity.
Memory, Emotion & Storage Controlled by Neuropeptides
Neuropeptides also participate in memory sorting, storage and recall . In his recent book, Beyond Order, the clinical psychologist and professor Dr. Jordon Peterson explains that the miracle of memory is not that we remember, the miracle of memory is that we forget and that we only remember what is necessary. The miracle of memory is that we only remember those things that are important and teach us meaning. Because we can forget, we don’t drag the horrible details of the past along with us. Our memories allow us to get free of the past. All you need is three sleepless nights in which you cannot dispense with the past and you would understand that life would be a literal hell if we cannot dispense with the day, the memory and the emotions of each day. We must renew ourselves in this cyclical unconsciousness we call sleep and resetting of the memory. It is during this time that memory, emotion and neurohormones are tied together.
Our memories are tied to emotions through neurochemical synapses created in the brain by the neuropeptides. Forgetting and remembering are very complex and sophisticated cognitive processes. Our subconscious reduces the memory, emotion and experience to it’s significance. The significance is then recorded as memory with it’s associated emotion, then our brain lets go of the details.
If you think about it, we boil our lives down to the “jest” of the story and then we remember only the significance of that story with attached emotion. This process saves us from being crushed by days, years and decades of the gory details of day to day experience.
Anxiety Provoking Memories are Experiences that Still Need Unpacking
If memories from 18 months or older are still bothering you, if they produce negative emotions, that is a sign that that memory has not been correctly or completely unpacked by the complex processes of the brain. It is essential that the brain unpack wisdom from the past that learning can occur and it can be applied to the future. This process occurs so that you don’t do the same stupid thing over and over again. Or, it is there so that you can repeat things that worked well. That is the purpose of memory. Not recollection, our memory is the extraction of wisdom for the lesson of life from vast experience.
If you have a memory that is still hurting you, making you anxious, causing, fear, guilt or shame, you have not undertaken the complex process of analyzing that memory, pulling out from it the moral, and dispensing with the details. This is why writing down these specific memories is so very important.
You must write the bad memory out. You must write out all of the details you remember and the emotions of that experience. It allows the mind to do the complex processing of identifying wisdom and social moral barriers of uncertainty, anxiety, threat, fear and panic that are bothering you. This is what therapy does when talking about and discussing the past.
If journaling and writing out the memory is not effective in resolving the anxiety or if you are unable to identify the memory causing the anxiety, you may want to consider hypnotherapy and directed meditation. This has been very effective with many of my patients having anxiety relating to childhood experiences improperly tied to strong emotions.
W. Dennis Parker does a wonderful job in his book, Spiritual Mind Management, elucidating how our subconscious mind inappropriately ties emotion to simple experiences and memory, and how these can cause anxiety. For those with resistant anxiety to journaling and therapy, hypnotherapy has been very effective.
Other Hormones associated with Anxiety and Obesity
Over the last two decades, I’ve found that two other hormones play a huge role in handling stress, anxiety, brain repair and play a very large role in sleep. Both of these hormones are derived directly from cholesterol. Low fat, vegan and vegetarian diets lead to low cholesterol availability and I commonly see low levels of the following hormones in both men and women.
The first of these is Pregnenolone. Pregnenolone is the precursor sex hormone derived from cholesterol in the blood stream. When serum pregnenolone level is lower than 50 mg/dL anxiety, insomnia, hair loss, poor recovery from exercise and difficulty with concentration become chronic. The cognitive cloudiness that occurs with low pregnenolone levels make the unpacking of traumatic experiences and the sorting of wisdom from day to day experience difficult due to poor sleep. I have been amazed that just the simple supplementation of pregnenolone nightly reverses anxiety, improves sleep, stops chronic migraine headaches, increases cognition and frequently allows people to “feel normal again.”
The second hormone is Progesterone. Interestingly progesterone is derived directly from pregnenolone. If large amounts of mental or physical stress are occurring, pregnenolone is used to make DHEA, Cortisol and Cortisone. Little is left to make progesterone which is necessary for further hair growth, sleep, focus, memory, the healing effects from stress and trauma in the brain. Progesterone often acts like a “brain steroid” healing both brain and spinal cord from stress and trauma.
Any evaluation for anxiety, insomnia, PTSD or stress must include screening both of these hormones, because without them, I’ve seen patients suffer for years with failure of the standard approaches.
One other molecule that has hormonal activities in the arena of anxiety and weight loss is that of methylated folic acid. Folic acid is converted into L-Methyl Folate within every cell of the body. This is accomplished by and enzyme called methytetrahydrofolate reductase (MTHFR). About 60-65% of the patients I see in my office with insulin resistance, impaired fasting glucose or diabetes have a deficiency in one or both of the MTHFR genes leading to poor conversion of folic acid to the methylated form. This is detrimental as methylated folic acid is essential in using Vitamin B12 within every cell of the body.
Lack of effective MTHFR enzymes leads to neuropathy, anxiety, depression, obesity and in severe cases elevated homocysteine levels and schizophrenias. You can learn more about that by reading my blog article on Folic Acid here and a youtube video on it here.
The Search for Individual Meaning is The Deepest of Human Instincts
The human psyche is stabilized by the search for and the experience of individual meaning within life. The subconscious instinct for understanding our individual meaning is the deepest thing about us as humans. It is innate and is part of our survival instinct. What if the instinct understanding or experiencing meaning meaning goes wrong? Pathologizing or lying about that individual meaning causes one to become “lost.” Understanding that the instinct for meaning can be distorted or lied about is the most frightening thing upon this planet. If you pathologize that individual meaning with deceit, you will be in the hands of things you do not want to contemplate. If you have no theory of good and evil, if you’ve never been exposed to malevolence and someone malevolent touches you, you’re done for.
Being true to one’s self or truthful with your understanding of individual meaning helps to properly orient a person in the world, and find middle ground between complete chaos on one side of life and rigid totalitarianism on the other. Finding and living in that middle ground requires one to rely upon individual instincts founded in truth. If you want to live in harmony with yourself and your instincts, and live in a middle ground between a life of chaos and one of totalitarianism, don’t feed yourself or surround yourself with indigestible lies, half-truths and deceit. You certainly shouldn’t try to warp the world around you by intentionally sharing deceitful meaning.
Anxiety Arises from Naivete
The sheltered soul or naive person is raised with the mindset that “all people are innately good.” The thought or concept that people are “fundamentally good” is a complete misconception. Being “good” is very difficult. It is by no means the default position of the natural man and the subconscious mind. Entropy, catastrophe, tragedy, malevolence and death is the default position of human nature and the subconscious mind. Good struggles up against this continually.
The people who are most prone to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) are usually naïve people who have been sheltered from malevolence – sheltered from those who are truly spiteful, hostile, vicious, malicious, malignant, vindictive, pernicious, vengeful, hateful, rancorous, and evil-minded. This is a well known clinical fact and can be found throughout the psychology literature. There is nothing about this fact that is questionable. The naïve world view is that you believe the world is fundamentally good – you believe that good behavior is rewarded with good in return – and you don’t really believe that there is any such thing as evil, and you encounter someone who is malevolent (and often you encounter this in yourself). That sheltering is general throughout our society. Death no longer occurs at home, it usually occurs in a hospital. People live in cities and are rarely exposed to the death of animals and the cycle of life seen 100 years ago in farm and ranch life.
Often in those with PTSD, people who have been sheltered from these things, do something, or are required to do something, so morally reprehensible that it damages them psycho-physiologically. Until their psychological framework of good and evil changes, it is very difficult to recover. These people have no framework in which to conceptualize violent death, evil or the reprehensible act. They are unable to balance the conscious and subconscious memories and emotions attached to reprehensible emotional guilt, and it destroys them. This is very common among soldiers. It’s not always what they saw, it’s what they did or what they were a part of.
Telling and teaching people that humans are innately good (which has been part of our school system teaching for decades) and that evil doesn’t really exist makes them ripe picking for the malevolent and there is nothing about that which is positive. It leaves tremendous anxiety and psycho-physiological scars in the wake. This sheltered outlook is cowardice masquerading as virtue. We see it more and more in our society.
This is why a teenage boy or girl in a traditional Christian or Jewish school is wiser and happier than the 50 year old professor of philosophy in a secular college. The person who innately understand that good and evil exist within the world have a much easier time coping with and handling stress and trauma that will cross all of our paths.
What does anxiety, chronic stress and PTSD have to do with obesity and weight gain?
Signals in our environment from very stressful life experiences on a daily basis, chronic underlying stress, chronic anxiety, radiation exposure, infectious organisms (such as bacteria and viruses), xenobiotic chemicals, allergens, intestinal bacterial metabolites and food-derived bioactive substances (including phytochemicals), all have influence on messages received by our genes that then influences their expression. Gene expression can turn on and off neuropeptides. This can effect the autonomic nervous system turning the metabolism up or down. The expression of our genes in turn controls our health and disease outcomes. This is one of the reasons COVID-19 seems to effect some people more dramatically than others.
The hormonal counterbalance of blood sugar is regulated, in part, by the autonomic nervous system. Changes to this system increase or decrease cortisol & glucose production, thereby affecting production of insulin and other weight mediating hormones. Changes in neuropeptides from stress or anxiety can act just like eating a meal.
As blood sugar falls, the autonomic nervous system responds to balance the blood sugar. If this system is dysfunctional or under chronic stress, cortisol and adrenalin will cause higher blood sugars due to the stress response and can trigger increased hunger inappropriately.
This is why chronic stress, poor sleep, or even getting cut off while driving in traffic is the equivalent of eating a donut to your hormone responses. If you’re not exercising, theses hormones will cause weight gain without any change in your diet, and even with caloric restriction.
How Do You Combat Chronic Stress or Anxiety?
Exercise – Because these hormones are released subconsciously, the only way to help control them is regular and consistent physical activity or exercise. Exercise, 20-40 minutes 3-6 days per week, is often the only way my patients have been able to combat the weight gain from chronic stress, anxiety and PTSD.
Adequate Protein – Recent studies have demonstrated that hitting protein thresholds in men ( > 150 grams per day) and women ( > 90 grams per day) increased growth hormone and decrease insulin, helping to offset the negative effect of stress and anxiety. This is a key component of a ketogenic or carnivorous lifestyle.
Sleep -Lack of sleep has been implicated in difficulty with weight loss and weight gain. Lack of sleep places the body into a state of chronic stress. This elevates cortisol, lowers testosterone, increases insulin (there’s that insulin problem, again) and increases the other inflammatory hormones. This perfect storm of stress, driven by lack of restful sleep, plays a big role in fat loss. My average patient needs at a minimum of 6-7 hours of restful sleep to maintain and lose weight. This is where untreated sleep disorders like sleep apnea play a big role. If you have sleep apnea, get it treated. What else can you do to help improve sleep?
Remove the computer, iPad and cell phones from the room.
Lower the room temperature. Men sleep better around 68-70 degrees F and women sleep better when the temperature is <70 degrees F.
Close the blinds or shades to add or darken the room.
Don’t study or watch TV in the same room you sleep in. Your body gets used to doing certain activities in certain rooms of the house. The bedroom should be reserved for sleep.
Go to bed at the same time
Get up at the same time.
Journaling – Daily journaling of experiences is one of the most powerful keys to helping the brain sort powerful emotions related to anxiety and memory.
Meditation – I’ve created a 23 minute relaxation/meditation audio file that you can listen to for 30 days to help change your subconscious script on weight loss. You can find it here.
Some people need additional help through hypnosis. Talk to your doctor about a certified hypnotherapist near you. If you are a patient of Dr. Nally’s, he offers these services. Set an appointment today.
Additional Resources – If this information is helpful, you may find additional interest in the following books:
“Loving What Is ” by Byron Katie
“Overcoming Worry and Fear” by Paul A Hauck
“The Joys of Living” by Orison Swett Marden
What to Expect
It may take your body and body’s biorhythm 3-4 weeks to adjust to changes you make around exercise, journaling, protein & sleep habits. Be patient with yourself.
Knowing that these challenges plague people on and off throughout the year, and, seeing people get hung up on these issues, I’ve created the Ketogenic Lifestyle 101 Course. This program gets you jump-started into ketosis and gives you the tools to overcome the individual hurtles you will experience on your health journey.
A few years ago, my family and I set out to build a pond.
I have always loved Koi and the serenity of a Koi pond in my own back yard was very enticing. I spent about a year planning my design and the location. I dreamed of a serene evening after a very long, hectic day seeing patients relaxing beside the pond. The sound of trickling water, the occasional splash from fish, the cool breeze passing over the mist from a water-fall would sooth my soul after a busy day in the office.
I envisioned the perfect area. An unused access path, previously worn by the previous owner with truck and trailer traffic, beside my now expanded patio. Twenty feet wide, thirty feet long and four feet deep. . . that seems just perfect.
I pulled out my shovel and set about digging. Eager to begin and filled with the energy of the final product, I set to digging. What could be so hard about digging my own pond? Think of the exercise I will be getting. Thoughts spurred me on.
Minutes later, chest heaving, face glistening with sweat, I stared in dismay at the ground. All I had to show for my wild digging was a small 1/2 inch dent in the dusty Arizona top soil.
Sonoran Clay
Over time, calcium-carbonate, along with other minerals, accumulates and dissolves into the topsoil of the very arid regions of Arizona Sonoran Desert. It forms a two to three-foot layer of soil called “caliche.” Periodic rains carry the calcium as far as three feet down into the soil, then the water rapidly evaporates in the blistering Arizona heat. This often forms two to three feet of soil that is “literally” harder than concrete.
With tremendous zeal, a great deal of sweat and a round of painful blisters, I broke my third shovel on this impenetrable ground. I realized this was much more difficult than I thought. I pulled out the back-hoe attachment for my small farm tractor. After a few hours and few gallons of diesel fuel later, still very little progress occurred.
Multiple weekends and evenings of digging in the Arizona caliche left me with three broken shovels, a ruptured hydrolic line in my tractor, anger that my expensive back-hoe attachment didn’t work, and only a small dent in the ground near my patio. Even the brute force from the tractor would not budge the clay. I wondered if dynamite would be effective? (My wife would have none of this idea).
With my exuberance quashed, I concluded that this would require much more measured exhuming.
Escape From the Prison
We often imagine, with great delight, the removal or destruction of that which enslaves or imprisons us. We dream that just a little sweat, exertion of a few shovel scoops of dirt and the foundation to our prison of obesity, addiction, debt, and depression are exposed. A few extra scoops and we imagine freedom from that prison cell.
If only I had a jack hammer and a bigger, more powerful scoop, I imagine . . . I could make short work of these manacles that bind me.
But, our manacles and prison cells do not so easily give way.
The failings of our sharpened spades and powerful back-hoes form a new, even stronger fetter – the belief that our prison cell is unbreakable, that our challenge is just too great. These failings usually leave a person cured of any further desire to break free. It quashs the dream and solidifying the depression of stagnation.
The in-fecundity of my shovel, no matter the strength and effort put behind it, was not cause to quit. It was life’s lesson that prisons and shackles often only need a simple tool.
Enter the pick-axe. During this process my wife said, “Honey, why don’t you use the pick in the garage?”
“If my shovel and the back-hoe didn’t work, there was no way I was going to break through this clay with a pick axe.” That was absurd, I thought.
Yet when I humbled myself to try, it was simple. The pick-axe was unpretentious. This simple tool allowed for an almost effortless stroke to a small area of weakness in the caliche. A large flake of soil would pop free with each stroke. The process was repeated.
Scale by scale, the dragon’s flank was exposed. Careful work of the pick-axe began to loosen layer after layer, section after section, pellicle after pellicle. Yes, it was slow work. But, each swing was a small victory.
At each little victory, my heart would leap, the dream would become ever clearer.
Working this magic again and again until finally the specter was weakened enough to pull out the shovel. And, further work, allowed for bringing back the powerful back-hoe, in gratifying scoops.
The excavation that I thought would take two months took me fourteen. But, it was gratifying.
I learned a powerful lesson. Wherever life has pinned you, fettered you or barred you in, put down the shovel, and pick up the pick-axe. Second, if you really listen, your spouse may point out the tool you really need. Don’t be afraid to chip away at it a piece at a time.
Finances
Stop waiting for the sharper shovel or the bigger back-hoe to dig yourself out of your harrowing debt, mega mortgage, or your income dwarfing spending. The jackpot or financial windfall won’t come. While others await the jackpot, put down your shovel and shoulder your pick-axe.
Pick one small debt and begin to pick at it by applying just a little extra each month until it is gone.
Cancel your extra cable, sell the motorcycle and payoff the 21% interest credit card.
If you must, pick up a side-hustle for extra to sharpen the pick.
Once you’ve lifted one flake, chip away at the next. Making progress will make it easier to continue. It doesn’t matter how long it takes, just keep at it.
Marriage
You long for resolution of the apathy, progressive resentment and mutual stalemate that permeates your relationship. You look in vain for the bigger shovel that will uncover the treasure that years of apathy have buried. You long to uncover your dreams and needs that have been covered and hardened under the clay of resentment. The shovel and the back-hoe won’t help you here.
Drop the shovel. Shoulder your pick-axe.
Kiss your wife every time you leave, even if it’s just for a ten minutes to run to the convenience store.
Hold her for five seconds longer every time you hug.
Find a gift you can give her once a week, just because.
Put down your phone and look her in the eyes when she talks to you and listen. Really listen and the flakes of hard clay will unveil the beauty of her soul.
Find a way to praise her every day, even if it is through a simple text.
Health
You long to rid yourself of your addiction to sugar, bread, stress, and sleep deprivation. You’ve tried to scoop them out of your life. You even hired a trainer with some muscle to force you to change. You’ve tried in vain to save yourself from yourself.
Trying to use the shovel here is like trying to use the shovel on steel forged walls of your life’s prison fortress. Forget the shovel. Shoulder your pick-axe.
Start with one meal and make some substitutions. My dietary plan can help you with this.
Go to bed an hour earlier. Really, you’ll be surprised that the focus you have will more than compensate for the hour of lost time in the evening.
Take ten minutes and do 20 push-ups and 20 sit-ups, then take a 10-minute walk.
Simply remove the “white stuff” from your meals. You will be amazed at the results.
Put down your phone for 30 minutes and read that book you’ve been meaning to read, instead of surfing Facebook.
Grand-standing with your back-hoe doesn’t help you. Just swing the pick-axe once or twice. Simple daily picking with the sharp point weakens the hardest of ground and the prison walls in our lives. It takes time, so be patient.
Find the weak point, apply the pick. Day by day, little by little you will be free.
I’ve been there. I’m with you. Keep me posted on your journey.
