According to Psychologists, there are actually Four Types of “Intelligence:”
- Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
- Emotional Quotient (EQ)
- Social Quotient (SQ)
- Adversity Quotient (AQ)
Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
This is the original measure of your level of comprehension. You need IQ to solve math and formulas, memorize things, and recall lessons.
Emotional Quotient (EQ)
This is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others, keep to time, be responsible, be honest, respect boundaries, be humble, genuine and considerate. This comes from correctly formed attachments with parents, grandparents and siblings over time (Read Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld)
Social Quotient (SQ)
This is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends, and maintain it over a long period of time. This can only be gained once appropriate interpersonal attachments are formed.
People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go further in life than those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize on improving IQ levels while EQ and SQ are played down. A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.
Your EQ represents your Character, while your SQ represents your Charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs, especially your EQ and SQ.
Now there is a 4th one, a new paradigm.
Adversity Quotient (AQ)
This is the measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life, and come out of it without losing your mind. When faced with troubles, AQ determines who will give up, who will abandon their family, and who will consider suicide. It determines who can maintain a ketogenic or carnivorous lifestyle in the face of family and friends claiming that “eating all that bacon will kill you.”
This is where the previously formed appropriate parental attachments come in to play. It is where the character was able to individualize. It is where life experience is gained by parents exposing children to other areas of life other than just academics.
Kids should adore manual labor (never use work as a form of punishment), sports, reading and the arts. Develop their IQ, as well as their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should eventually become multi-faceted human beings, able to do things independently of their parents.
Do not prepare the road for yourself and your children. Prepare your children and yourself for the road.